Quitting!
Why is it that quitting is always construed as a weakness! Ever noticed how people tell you " Don't ever quit", " Quiting is for sissies". " Winners never quit and quitters never win"
Thinking about it, is it really for the sissies? I have a different opinion. I believe it takes a lot of guts to quit, to let something go. Think about it.
We become so used to certain things that we find it tremely tough to let go of things. It could be a thing, a place, a habit, a person and most of the times a view. If you have a not so great habit of smoking, how many times have you actually thought of quitting but never been able to. How many times have you thought of quitting the habit of eating sweets or over indulging in shopping or for that matter quitting the job that you crib about every day!!!
It take a hell lot of courage and determination to quit the habit of smoking, of quitting the habit of over indulgence in shopping, of gorging on sweets or finally hearing the call of your heart and quiting the job to do something that you always wanted to do. We are so used to our comfort zones that we don't want to do anything that would bring us discomfort. And mind well, we do it even if the comfort zone that we currently are, is not really comfortable. But our defence is " A Known Devil is better than an Unknown one". " Atleast I know that this boss of mine is bad, who knows whether the rest will be worse than him/her or not".
People continue to live in relationships which have no future or for that matter any present also. They don't live with each other, they act to tolerate each other, they have no common likes or even dislikes and yet they are together. Their interests, the way they think, the way they are,as individuals, are entirely different. They know that they are not happy, nor are they keeping the other person happy but still they won't quit.Why??? I will be the first in my family to get seperated, what will my parents say, what about the children, what will society say! All hogwash! The reason you are not quitting is because you are scared and now you have become used to the sad way of your life and that has become your comfort zone. You don't want to change that because that will mean getting out of your comfort zone!. Quitting is not easy, it is very tough! If it was easy, they would have left each other long back.
Quiting a habit which is pulling you back from development, quiting from a relationship which has nothing but disharmony and acrimony, quitting from a job which does not do justice to your talent and hard work... Is quiting such a wrong thing afterall!!
Still believe that "Quitting is for losers!!?? Food for thought!!!
Why is it that quitting is always construed as a weakness! Ever noticed how people tell you " Don't ever quit", " Quiting is for sissies". " Winners never quit and quitters never win"
Thinking about it, is it really for the sissies? I have a different opinion. I believe it takes a lot of guts to quit, to let something go. Think about it.
We become so used to certain things that we find it tremely tough to let go of things. It could be a thing, a place, a habit, a person and most of the times a view. If you have a not so great habit of smoking, how many times have you actually thought of quitting but never been able to. How many times have you thought of quitting the habit of eating sweets or over indulging in shopping or for that matter quitting the job that you crib about every day!!!
It take a hell lot of courage and determination to quit the habit of smoking, of quitting the habit of over indulgence in shopping, of gorging on sweets or finally hearing the call of your heart and quiting the job to do something that you always wanted to do. We are so used to our comfort zones that we don't want to do anything that would bring us discomfort. And mind well, we do it even if the comfort zone that we currently are, is not really comfortable. But our defence is " A Known Devil is better than an Unknown one". " Atleast I know that this boss of mine is bad, who knows whether the rest will be worse than him/her or not".
People continue to live in relationships which have no future or for that matter any present also. They don't live with each other, they act to tolerate each other, they have no common likes or even dislikes and yet they are together. Their interests, the way they think, the way they are,as individuals, are entirely different. They know that they are not happy, nor are they keeping the other person happy but still they won't quit.Why??? I will be the first in my family to get seperated, what will my parents say, what about the children, what will society say! All hogwash! The reason you are not quitting is because you are scared and now you have become used to the sad way of your life and that has become your comfort zone. You don't want to change that because that will mean getting out of your comfort zone!. Quitting is not easy, it is very tough! If it was easy, they would have left each other long back.
Quiting a habit which is pulling you back from development, quiting from a relationship which has nothing but disharmony and acrimony, quitting from a job which does not do justice to your talent and hard work... Is quiting such a wrong thing afterall!!
Still believe that "Quitting is for losers!!?? Food for thought!!!
hmmm....this is something I have pondered over a lot of times myself! But there is one thing I want to say ... ! For me, there is a difference between "quitting" and "letting go" ! My perception of "quitting" is of giving up on something that you sought...something you strive for...something you otherwise so WANT ! But "letting go" is accepting to "release" what you want to hold on to !
ReplyDeleteSo, I still believe that quitting is for losers because they are ever so ready to give up ! Ready to give up all their dreams, aspirations, desires etc ! The winners are those who can "let go" which is definitely more tougher....because you "quit" what your mind wants...but you "let go" of what your heart wants !
Thanks SK,
ReplyDeleteBTW, i am a bit confused after the many let go and quits. Hence i am letting go of my desire to comment and would now quit!!
:)
Don't I always you with my writings ? LOL !
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ReplyDeleteIt's a very interesting take and I just loved reading it.
ReplyDeletethe meaning of the word 'quitting' refers to 'discontinuing'; and 'letting go' talks about 'stop holding onto'...Hence, I guess both are similar and your take is kinda clear, though usage of the word 'quitting' is more associated with job, service etc.
'letting go' talks about a voluntary release and is positive whereas 'quitting' is positive (and that is what got highlighted in the above writing) half way through yet it also does have another darkar side which is synonymous with 'giving up' and that talks about defeat and is negative, and that might create confusion.
ooops sorry if I have started taking an English class here :P
All said and done it is very clear what you tried to convey Vinesh and man, do you have a strong point there! Just loved reading it. waiting for more to come our way.
"sissie"?? - Now, that's a gender bias!! :-)
Thanks Baishali!!
ReplyDeleteBTW, just looked up the meaning of the word Sissy since you mentioned it and this is what i found! not sure it talks about gender bias. Could not write SISSA right???
•A boy or man regarded as effeminate.
•A person regarded as timid or cowardly.
well it isn't necessarily my feelings but a few sector of women find it objectionable that a man considers it an insult when he is called a woman or woman-like, and even the world finds it demeaning.
ReplyDeletejust like it's these days considered as objectionable from a certain women's forum if a man finds it insulting when he is being said - "haat mein cudiya pahenlo"
but do not take my comment so seriously for I do not fall into a feminist group though I support some of their issues. and anyways if a writer has to pay too much attention on these things then his/her creativity gets curbed. so write bindas n make us laugh .... mine was just a lil naughty nudge ... :)
* correction - churiya
ReplyDeleteWell baishali, i wont mind the Cudiya ( kudiya as in gals bit) though :P
ReplyDeleteWell i definitely do believe that men will never want to become a woman for the simple reason that it is extremely tough! men like it easy! :)
So no offence meant! Peace!! do u see the white flag!!